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EXCLUSIVITY: Let's talk about It!

 

This is going on in my head for sometime🙂and in fact for days! It started working more in my thoughts when I started reading the Book- "The Book of a Woman" by OSHO.

I was trying to understand his thoughts and what he had to say in his book. He has not spoken about uniqueness in a manner I think of it but it gave me a perspective to work on my line of thinking.
HERE IT IS!

Relationships come with a mix of blending together, possessiveness and expectations. Relationships also wither because of the same reasons and more.

When you have any kind of close relationship( Friend, boyfriend, girlfriend, wife, husband or a colleague whom you relate to, parents, siblings) exclusivity gets in. In the sense you want that space in his/her life and in their thoughts and heart like none occupy. I am not saying special treatment but one does not want to be with that person like "one among the rest" but do not to give that piece of themself to anyone else. Does not mean you don't let go other relationships you have build over the years? NO-You don't. It is a relationship in this lifetime build over the years-You are not having a rebirth! 

Narayan only met Shree Laxmi in all his Avatars, Mahadev met only Parvati Mata in every incarnation. They only chose each other over others. No one could take their place even when apart. Shree Radha's space, place did not change for Shri Krishna. No one could ever take that place and only she remained in that space. Be it Shree Radha, Rukmini they were all Laxmi Swaroopa- that did not change. 

Meera bai, and others it is the similar situation. The world termed it as a connection between a bhakti and the divine. In fact, Meera Bai was completely in love with Shri Krishna and could not relate to anyone like the way she related with him hence could not live with anyone else. She tremendous faced backlash. 

That is EXCLUSIVITY. This exclusivity is come from our God and Goddesses itself. I am not saying it!! There could be a deeper meaning why they chose only each and other every time. This also makes me think is the institution of marriage designed for this reason?  I am not getting into where it is heading in the modern times. 

When we are given such exclusivity from the divine itself why are we not having such an exclusivity in our relationships? Our relationships are degenerating and down falling. In the name of exclusivity we have only possessiveness ( A good one is always welcome), control over each other, ego, disrespect forgetting the fact that we are dealing with another human being. 

Our Gods and Goddesses not only respected each other's respective uniqueness but also encouraged each other to fly in their respective paths. This in turn culminated to other emotions like love, affection, empathy, care and the right to correct one another without holding back accepting the follies, correcting them and building their strength. 

 Relationships also start deteriorating when this exclusivity is invaded. Uniqueness can only exist when one lets go of these unwanted fringes and least try to be with each other. We have no hold on whom we choose in every life but EXCLUSIVITY will prevail forever.

BY

Lavanya M Rao

Date:4-Mar-26

Place: Bangalore/Bengaluru

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